A Step in My Journey to Simplifying My Life and My Wardrobe
Today marks another step in my journey to simplifying my life and living a more intentional, comfortable life. One thing I have been working on lately is decluttering my wardrobe. I have been finding my own personal style and only keeping those items that I love and bring me joy. I decided I want my wardrobe to be versatile, simple, cohesive, chic, and last but not least comfortable. I have mostly been able to eliminate the things I don’t love. I have simplified my wardrobe down to mainly the things I love wearing.
Uncomfortable Boob Cages From Hell
One thing that is most definitely not bringing me joy is my bras. My bras are mainly all pushup bras with underwire. I never really put effort into washing or drying them properly. I would just throw them in the wash with the rest of my laundry and dry them in the dryer. Improper washing caused bent underwire, misshapen cups, and stretched out bands. I always find myself having to adjust my bra when it rides up and the underwire cuts into my breasts. When the wash stretches them out, I don’t feel very supported, and they don’t look as good through my clothes. In order to have a more comfortable wardrobe I need to fix this bra situation and free my boobs from these uncomfortable boob cages from hell.
Comfortable Clothes Reduce Stress
I think it is so important to wear clothes that are comfortable if you want to reduce stress in your life. It is stressful to wear uncomfortable clothes. Sure, your mind eventually learns to ignore these uncomfortable stimuli for most of day, but every once in a while, in a non-distracted moment, your mind notices the discomfort. Why would you want your non-distracted moments to be filled with noticing this discomfort? Your non-distracted moments should be moments of peace and serenity!
Finding a Bra That Fits
Okay, back to liberating myself from these uncomfortable boob cages. Someone recommended to me that I try Aerie bras. American Eagle Outfitters makes them. (No, they are not paying me, but if they want to I would gladly accept!) They make comfy wire-free bras. I went in and had them measure me. It is very important to wear the right size bra if you want to be comfortable. They said I was a 32B which was a surprise to me because I always have worn a 34A. So, I tried on both sizes. The 32B felt too tight on my ribcage and the 34A felt just right. I decided to stick with what was comfortable, especially since I had been measured once before as a 34A. In fact, if you want to get measured, I recommend you do it yourself using these guidelines. You can also get measured in the store to see how well they match up, but you should be skeptical and make sure you are trying the bras on before-hand and make sure they fit comfortably. When you are trying on bras, you should try them on using the loosest hooks. The hooks that are further in, are there for when the bra gets stretched out. If you have to use the tightest hooks for a bra to fit, it is too big because once it stretches out, there is nowhere else to go!
At Last, My Boobs are Comfortable!
Anyway, I tried on their wire-free bras. I felt like my boobs were being hugged by a beautiful supportive angel who was sent there to make sure my boobs were comfortable and happy. I found these bras to be quite supportive. The cups are molded from a structured material. I think they would probably be fine for larger women as well. They were also available in larger sizes, so try them on and see how you like them! I also thought the bras were very pretty. I was happy with the look of them and some were covered in pretty lace and looked a bit like a bralette. When I put my top on over the bra, my breasts don’t look quite as full as they do when I wear a pushup but I am okay with that. I just want to be comfortable and look like myself.
Simplify Your Life and Buy Versatile Bras
Luckily, these bras were on sale for 50% off so I bought 2 of them. I almost bought more but I prefer to buy nude color bras because they can be worn under light colored tops without showing through. I bought the only two nude colored ones in my size. It’s nice to have a black bra, but most of my black bras are just annoying because I can only wear them with black tops. I want to simplify my life. I don’t want to have to worry about matching my bras to my tops.
OMG, Bras can Be Sexy and Comfy?!?! 🙂 🙂 🙂
That night, after seeing a bunch of pretty bralettes in Aerie, I started googling around to figure out WTF a bralette is and how to wear one/why they exist. I found out that bralettes are like one step down in structure/support from wire-free bras. They can be an even more comfortable (and beautiful) option for women who don’t need much support and who just want to make sure their nipples are not poking through their shirt. You can use bralettes to make a fashion statement by pairing them with slouchy tanks or a sundress since it looks pretty when your lacy bralette peaks out. Some people even wear them on their own.
Since I have small breasts that don’t need much support, I was like, “wait a second…I can get beautiful, comfy, lacy bras with no underwire, and they are cheaper than normal bras???!!! What have I been doing with my life up to this point?” All of my beautiful sexy bras (and by all, I mean two) are itchy AF, uncomfortable, stiff, have underwire, and I never wear them because they suck.
So the next day, I went back in search of some bralettes. While Aerie does have some cute ones, they were all racerbacks, which I think is less versatile since I don’t wear a lot of racerbacks. I went to Hollister and found a really beautiful canary yellow one that I am absolutely in love with. It’s not as versatile as a nude one but at least it’s light colored so can go under most clothes. I have some slouchy tops that I have always tried to wear an undershirt with but it never looked quite right and it was annoying to wear an additional layer in hot weather. I think the bralette might be a really cute solution to that.
The bralette I found is lightly padded and for me still felt quite supportive (although I am not sure if larger chested women would feel the same). It is extremely comfortable! Surprisingly it did not completely flatten out my chest, so I bought it. I am now the proud owner of three new, extremely comfortable and cute/sexy bras! I feel like I am going to be so much more comfortable in my day to day life now. Once and for all I can get rid of those two itchy BS underwire “sexy bras”. (Are they really that sexy if they are so uncomfortable?)
Wash Your Bras Properly to Keep them Nice
Since I have finally found bras I like, I vow to either wash them separately in a gentle cycle or to at least get one of those mesh laundry bags that protects them from the other clothes. You should air dry your bras. I can’t vow that that will actually happen because that kind of sounds like a pain in the ass but I will try it and see how it goes.
Quick Tips for Finding and Maintaining Comfortable Bras
If you don’t want to read my really long post about my personal experience with liberating my breasts from archaic boob torture devices then I have compiled below a list of some tips to finding comfortable bras.
- Measure yourself or get measured. See the following link for instructions on how to measure yourself. No bra will be comfortable if it is the wrong size.
- Try bras on with the clasps on the largest setting. The tighter clasps are there for when the bra stretches out.
- Try out wire-free bras, I recommend Aerie from American Eagle Outfitters (no they are not paying me).
- If you are on the smaller side like me, try out some bralettes.
- Wash your bras correctly. Improper washing will cause your bras to become stretched out, bent, misshappen, and uncomfortable. Ideally you want to hand-wash your bras and air dry them. If this is not possible, get a mesh laundry bag to wash them in. This will at least prevent them from getting tangled up with your other clothes and getting stretched out.
- Usually you can wear your bra 2-3 times before washing it. (Unless you have been sitting around a campfire, or sweating profusely)
- There is no one size fits all approach to bras. Just because I like one brand or one style of bra does not mean it will work for you. Try out different things and figure out what you like. Don’t settle for uncomfortable bras!!!